Perhaps we should start by explaining what we mean when we talk about owning our lives. When we own something, we possess it. Roger’s Thesaurus offers lots of synonyms for “own” and most clearly apply here:
“hold, have, enjoy, have inherited, fallen heir to, have title to, have rights to, be master of, control, dominate, have
When we own our lives, we accept what we’ve inherited or lay claim to the experiences we hold in our memories. We also lay claim to our right to create new conditions if we’re not happy with what’s come before. We assume responsibility for changing what does not suit us. We acknowledge our own special talents and skills, and truly comprehend our right to enjoy the journey. In short, we embrace the meaning and purpose, the mystery and the beauty of our lives. Do you feel that you understand and own your life at the moment?