“GOals
FOR WHAT YOU WANT IN LIFE!” --
Helping you achieve your true potential --
This is your life. What have you done with it so far? Are
you happy with how it’s unfolding? Sit back and dream a little. What do you want in your life that you don’t have now? What are you doing to bring that special something to reality? This is your life. Make it truly yours. Make it wonderful and fulfilling. You hold the power to make your life whatever you want. It’s up to you. But you have to make it happen. And we can help you do it. Presented
by http://www.higherawareness.com For
any comments or problems email mailto:john@higherawareness.com Note: The complete program includes one full year of inspiring, informative support emails and two more workbooks on Time Management and Goal Tracking. This extended offering is available to members of the Higher Awareness web site. For more information please visit http://www.higherawareness.com/yearlonggoalsetting.shtml
Introduction – Living Life on Purpose Step
1 - What Do You Want From This Program? Step
3 - Find Happiness In
Balance Step
8 - Let's Be Specific
A few details before we get started:
Okay! Let’s get you started on creating and achieving goals for your journey!
“Know what you want. Become your real self.” -- David Harold Fink
It has been proven, time and time again, that people who set goals achieve success while those who don’t, generally achieve very little. Goal setting helps you get clear about what you want, set priorities and create a plan. Consistently working with your goals enables you to attain results. More importantly, the process of identifying what you want in life helps you learn more about who you are. When we set and pursue our own goals, we take control of our lives. As we plot targets and move towards them, we bring purpose and focus to our days. Our actions have meaning. Decisions are easier to make. Our self-esteem, happiness and fulfillment grow as we clearly see ourselves moving forward in life. We live our lives on purpose. Goal setting, review and achievement, then, must become an integral part of our day-to-day mindset. The process only works when we continually work with it.
“One day Alice came to a fork in the road and saw a Cheshire cat in a tree. Which road do I take? she asked. Where do you want to go? was his response. I don't know, Alice answered. Then, said the cat, it doesn't matter.” -- Lewis Carroll
Why are you doing this workbook? If you are going to spend precious time completing this program, it's important to be really clear about what you want to get from the process. There are three reasons for this:
When you get to the very deepest reasons for what brought you here, you will tap into powerful motivating forces that will propel you to success. This experience will have real meaning for you. EXERCISES:
“There is no road to success but through a clear strong purpose. Nothing can take its place. A purpose is the eternal condition of success.” -- Theodore Munger
“I can teach anybody how to get what they want out of life. The problem is that I can't find anybody who can tell me what they want.” -- Mark Twain Surprisingly enough, most of
us haven’t put much effort into figuring out what we want in life.
If we do have something in mind, we may not have examined it as
closely as we might to ensure it truly represents our heart’s
desire. In this workbook, we’re going to give you a number of exercises to help you brainstorm your greatest wants and needs. Consider Steps 2 – “What do you want in life?” as research. Explore all possibilities. Be serious and playful. Gather as much data as you can on your interests and needs. Once you’ve explored your options thoroughly, you can weed out and refine to create your top goals. For now, break down all barriers that limit you from choosing what you want. Go for it! EXERCISE: Draw 3 columns and 3 rows equally spaced on a sheet of paper to create a grid of 9 boxes. Answer each of the 9 questions below in one of the 9 boxes. (Having all the information on one page forces your mind to see a bigger picture and creative interconnections of ideas.) You don’t have much room in each box, so aim to capture the essence of what you’re seeking in just a few words. And please don’t agonize over getting the “right” answers in each box. You’re brainstorming here. Write down what comes to mind. You can always change your entries. In fact, that’s the beauty of the process. As you explore, you’ll refine your thinking. Your direction will become increasingly clear. So do your best but don’t spend days on it. As you answer these questions, stretch your thinking and your imagination. Imagine you could have anything you wanted. Imagine that there are no money or time or resource limitations. What do you most want? 1. What did you enjoy last year that you want more of? 2. What do you want less of compared to last year? 3. What do you want this next year that’s new, that you haven’t had before? Think of results, experiences, values, feelings. 4. What do you want physically? E.g., material things, health, energy, exercise, sleep 5. What do you want emotionally? E.g., feelings, passions, balance, esteem, love 6. What do you want mentally? E.g., to learn, to create, to read, to design, to express, to release 7. What do you want spiritually? E.g., pleasure, service, beauty, peace, joy, unity 8. What do want to achieve in your career? E.g., financial goals, new job, your own business, another income stream 9. What do you want to achieve with family, friends, relationships, community? When you’re finished, review what you’ve written. Which five items are most IMPORTANT to you right now? Which five are the most URGENT for you to address now?
"If you dont have the courage to pursue your own goals, you leave yourself open to the many people who will be only too happy to recruit you to pursue theirs." - Jimmy Calano
“A happy life should be in balance. One must live equally in the mind, body and spirit. Those who are lacking in one of these three attributes cannot be totally happy. It is only by keeping all three nourished through the rich resources at our call that we can help tap the true source of our strength.” – Lillian Gish
Reflect on your answers to the questions in Step 2 and ask yourself, “How balanced is my life?” In her book, Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway, Susan Jeffers recommends that we identify the key elements we want/need in our life. They might be: career, intimate relationship, health, family, friends, personal growth, leisure, service, spiritual growth, personal time, finances, etc. EXERCISE:
“Why not spend some time determining what is worthwhile for us, and then go after that?” -- William Ross
In this exercise, we want you to probe beneath the surface to connect with what you REALLY want in life. We tend to identify physical objects or circumstances as our targets, when what we really want is the feeling, quality or experience we believe that object will bring us. For example, I may say I want more money, but what I really want is the freedom to live the way I choose. EXERCISE: Ask someone you trust to assist you. Their task is to repeatedly ask you the two questions below for a period of 5 minutes. They will also record your answers for you. They are not to respond to your answers in any way, with either words or physical expressions. The two questions are:
Keep your answers short. Allow whatever is inside to come out, without judgment of any kind. Repetition of answers is okay. What do your answers say about what is most important to you? Now that you know what you REALLY want, can you think of new goals that might bring this to you? In your journal, write about your insights from this process.
“Desire, like the atom, is explosive with creative force.” -- Paul Vernon Buser
“As you climb the ladder of success, make sure the ladder is leaning against the right wall.” – Source unknown
Too often we do things for others and not for ourselves. We do things based on what we have habitually done and not on what we are drawn towards. Too often we stay within our comfort zone of mediocrity and never truly realize our potential. The more you can align your goals with your essence and value system, the more you can experience desire and drive, courage, synergy, a flow and a more meaningful life. So how does one connect with one’s purpose? If you want to explore this in depth, Higher Awareness offers members an online workbook to help you identify your life purpose. To order this workbook and all others, click here: http://www.higherawareness.com/lifepurpose.shtml EXERCISES: You may get a sense of your life purpose by answering the following questions: 1. What do you most love to do, e.g., lead, teach, nurture, create, communicate, mediate, invent, research, organize, inspire or …? (Appendix 1 at the end of this workbook lists action verbs to help you intuitively connect with your most passionate activities.) 2. What is your most joyous activity? 3. What gives you the greatest sense of meaning in life? 4. What values, qualities and virtues do you stand for? (See Appendix 2 for a list of 100 values to select from) 5. In what ways would you like to help people? 6. What do you feel is your true vocation or service? Your life purpose doesn’t have to be one that changes the world. It must, however, possess the power to change your world—to bring you the passion, energy and enthusiasm to motivate you to offer something of yourself. Your life purpose is your gift of yourself to others. From the answers to the above questions: 1. What do you feel most strongly about?
2. Can you put your purpose into one statement? Examples of life purpose statements are: - I want to lobby for better child labor laws. - I want to free myself from fear. - I want to support others in becoming the best they can be. If you still do not have a sense of what it is, take a guess at what it might be. PUT A LABEL ON IT. Write something down. Make your purpose big enough so it stretches your thinking. Once you have something written, you can monitor your reaction to it when you review it over time. You will be able to fine-tune it till it feels right for you. It will change your life. Now review your notes from the last exercises and ensure your purpose is reflected in the goals you’ve drafted so far. Remember, aligning your goals with your innate purpose, gifts, talents and beliefs greatly enhances your chance of success and joy. "We are all functioning at a small fraction of our capacity to live fully in its total meaning of love, caring, creating, and adventuring. Consequently, the actualizing of our potential can become the most exciting adventure of our lifetime." -- Herbert Otto
At a seminar in Edmonton, Canada, David Irvine spoke about how we continually juggle balls in our lives. Some of these balls are made of rubber. If we drop them, they bounce. No damage is done and we can go after them any time and throw them back into the air. Some of our balls, however, are made of glass. If we drop them, they shatter and the damage cannot be repaired. Irvine challenges us to identify and zealously protect the glass balls in our lives. Examples of glass balls would be spending time with our loved ones, updating our wills, buying the different kinds of insurance, and looking after our health. We never know what life will bring us or when a major crisis may hit. We want to do what we can to look ahead and be prepared. EXERCISE: What glass balls do you need to attend to in your life? What goals can you set to protecting them? What priority would you give to these goals?
“It's not hard to make decisions when you
know what your values are.” -- Roy Disney “The least of things with a meaning is worth more in life than the greatest of things without it.” -- Source Unknown
“The purpose of goals is to focus our attention. The mind will not reach toward achievement until it has clear objectives. The magic begins when we set goals. It is then that the switch is turned on, the current begins to flow, and the power to accomplish becomes a reality." -- From the Best of Success, compiled by Wynn Davis
We
are well served when we map out a series of short-term, mid-term and
long-term goals. Our
minds can work on many things at once, so write out lots of goals. Try
for 100. The act of writing them down, linked with the power of the
thinking process, can double the chances of your goals coming to life. A long-term goal could be one that’s dramatically different from your present situation. It’s there that we can write down the dreams that at present seem far-fetched and impossible to achieve. But “impossible” exists only in our minds. Any day, we may choose to change our minds, and then who knows what might transpire? Don’t discount any of your secret desires. Miracles happen! Defining our long-term goals also tells us what we need to do in the short- and mid-term for the long-term goals to be realized. You may find it helpful to write down some long-term goals, e.g., three years, then work backwards to determine what needs to be accomplished this year to get you to where you want to be in three years. And finally, having short, mid and long-term goals sets up a framework of purpose for our lives. If we set our direction clearly, we have the foundation for effective decision-making. If a decision needs to be made, it will be clear to us whether or not the action under consideration will move us towards our goals. If it doesn't, we have the choice of altering our goals or choosing not to undertake the action. All this helps us develop intention and attention to what we want to achieve in life. EXERCISE: Review all of the ideas you have written down as you explored your desires. Which goals stand out as priorities for you? You cannot have too many goals, but it is advisable to only work on a handful at once. For some people, working on only one at a time is best. Select
those that you want to focus on now. What
short-term goals will honor your commitments to yourself and others,
protect the glass balls we talked about in Step 6, and set up behavior for success? What
mid-term goals are important for you? What
goals do you want to accomplish in this lifetime? Write them down!
Take this first step to bring your dreams to reality. Here’s an exercise to make sure you are on the right path. We cannot emphasize strongly enough the power of connecting with your deepest inner motivations and values. EXERCISE: Identify your top 4 goals for the next year or two. For each of them ask yourself, why you want to complete that goal? Why is it so important to you? Make a list of reasons that come to mind for each goal. Spend some time completing this exercise. Now reflect on your motivations and ask yourself, “What else can I do to experience each motivation or value?” This will help you to fine tune your important goals. Update your goal list.
“Determine that the thing CAN and SHALL BE DONE and then we shall find the way.” -- Abraham Lincoln
Now that you have a sense of your goals, let us look at how to format them. A common format is to create "BE SMART" goals (Specific, Measurable, Action, Reward, Timing, BEnefits). 1. Specific (WHAT) – Describe what you want as clearly as you can. 2. Measurable - How will you know when you have achieved your goal or if you are getting closer? 3. Action (HOW) - What action is most needed to accomplish your goal? 4. Reward (CELEBRATION) - Identify a meaningful reward for when you achieve your goal, e.g., buy yourself something, have a party, etc. 5. Timing (WHEN) - Set a date for completion, set dates for reaching milestones or establish a rate (e.g., lose 2 pounds per month) that will get you to your target. 6. Benefits (WHY) - Why do you want to attain this goal? Connect with your motivation, values, purpose and essence. EXERCISE: Set up a table like the one below to write out your goals. Example: "I see my home as sold (S) for $100,000 (M) by March 1 of next year (T) by cleaning it, painting it and listing it (A) so I can be creative and peaceful in a new home that is more roomy, sunny and conveniently located (BE) and when I move in, I will have a big house party (R)."
The key here is to be as specific as you can about what you want. It is also important that you make your goals realistic. Only you can judge what is attainable for you, and it may take some practice to get a feel for this. If you are unsure about how much you can accomplish first time around, set goals you are confident you can meet. You must be able to believe that you can reach your goal. Success breeds success, so to begin with, it's important that you meet your goals. Once you are more comfortable with the process, you will be inspired to reach higher. You may be surprised at just how capable you are once you clearly know what you’re after! For the moment, don’t bite off more than you can chew. Give yourself time to experience and learn the process and build good habits. “Concentrate on finding your goal, then concentrate on reaching it.” – Michael Friedsam
“The power to move the world is in the subconscious mind.” -- William James
Too often people set goals and then never reconnect with them. To achieve your goals, you must make them part of your everyday thinking, doing and being. When we can anchor our goals deeply in our subconscious minds, we bring all the power of the subconscious into play in manifesting what we desire. The subconscious is immensely powerful, and it obeys without challenge all directions from the conscious mind. Our goal is to control our thinking and self-talk so we feed the subconscious clear, consistent, constructive messages. To do that requires REPETITION, AUTHORITY and PEACE OF MIND – RAP. When you give clear, consistent messages to the subconscious, then people, resources and events that support your goals will be attracted to you like a magnet. We are most effective in anchoring our goals in our subconscious when we use the following tools: repetition, affirmation, visualization, meditation, ritual and symbols. You must use at least 4 growth tools at the same time to provide enough stimulation and tension to change the subconscious. Here are some tips to anchor goals deeply within you:
§ Use only positive statements. The subconscious doesn’t process negatives. Always say, “I love wealth” rather than “I hate poverty.” § State them in the present tense, as though you already have that which you desire, e.g. I am doing work I love. § Write them down. Keep them visible to remind you of them often. § Repeat affirmations at least 3 times with each session. § Say them to yourself or out load with feeling - speak emphatically, confidently, joyously and with conviction. § Tell the truth – affirm only what you can believe. If you don’t, this will create unhealthy conflict within you. If you can’t fully believe in having what you deeply desire, can you believe in the possibility of having it? If so, state your affirmation in progressive terms. For example, “I am becoming more healthy every day.” Again, only use words you can accept as a fact in your life. § Use affirmations that feel right for you. Don’t hesitate to create your own, using the guidelines above.
Visualize what you want, but not how you want to get it. Your subconscious will figure out how to manifest your desires. Use mental pictures, symbols, colors, music, the senses, breath work and play. Use metaphors and analogies, as the subconscious mind is very indirect. Experience how it feels to have your goals realized. Involve as many senses as you can in your imagination. Put life, passion and feeling into your focus.
Make your goals a part of your being. Use at least 4 of the above methods to really let the subconscious mind know you are serious about your goals. Believe you have already succeeded in your aims. Most importantly, review your goals regularly. The very best practice is to review them first thing in the morning and just before you go to sleep at night. EXERCISE: Review the tools above and choose at least 4 that appeal to you. Create a plan for how you can incorporate these activities into your daily routine. Block the time needed on your calendar. Set and honor your intention to use these tools consistently.
“This is the great secret of human power and creativity. Your choice of belief, thought, emotion and action create your reality.” – Delfin Knowledge System
“Knowing is not enough; we must apply. Willing
is not enough; we must do.” -- Johann Wolfgang Von Goethe
Now that you are anchoring goals deeply into your mind, how do you support this inner creative work on the physical plane? The key two words now are AWARENESS and ACTION. Awareness: With goals planted in your subconscious mind, you will attract more results into your life. Expect miracles, opportunities and synchronicity to happen. Be open and aware so you can catch them. Come from a place of “I know and believe it is happening.” Relaxing and enjoying some peace of mind heightens your awareness. If you allow yourself to get too busy, or if your mind is preoccupied with worries or fear, your power of attracting the resources to meet your goals is diminished, and many opportunities can be missed. Action:
“God gives every bird his worm, but
he does not throw it into the nest.” -- Swedish Proverb “Everything worthwhile, everything of any value, has a price. This price is effort.” -- Loretta Young
“Of course we all have our limits, but how can you possibly find your boundaries unless you explore as far and as wide as you possibly can? I would rather fail in an attempt at something new and uncharted than safely succeed in a repeat of something I have done.” -- A.E. Hotchner
We will be offering more detailed information on how to track your progress a few months into the email program. For now, simply keep your key goals in front of you and on your mind. At your weekly review session, ask yourself questions. Where are my goals unclear? What is stopping me from getting results? For the greatest benefit of all concerned, what is the next best thing for me to do? Open-ended questions that can’t be answered with a simple yes or no are powerful in leading us into new ways of thinking. This will help you stay on track with your highest interests. You may want to plot your goals out on a chart and update regularly. What can you measure that’s meaningful to you? E.g., pounds lost, miles ran, sales made, goals scored, dollars earned, books read, hours spent with family. When you complete a goal, celebrate! This really anchors the whole manifesting process into your psyche and tells both your conscious and subconscious minds that you can do it again. Consider having fun when you see the end result a great ritual.
“Never measure the height of a mountain, until you have reached the top. Then you will see how low it was.” -- Dag Hammarskjold
“In all our acts of manifestation, we are really only manifesting a new aspect of ourselves. We are giving our lives a new shape. We are the primary object of our manifestation.” – David Spangler
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