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When our world falls apart
“You never change things by fighting the
existing reality. To change something, build a new model that makes the existing
model obsolete.”
-- R. Buckminster Fuller
Is your world crumbling around you? Perhaps you’ve lost a job or a loved one.
Perhaps you’re going through a divorce, bankruptcy or a life-threatening
illness. Or maybe your situation is more subtle – mid life crisis or career
change. Whatever the situation, your life feels unstable, even like it’s falling
apart.
It happens to each of us, in one way or another. Dramatic events and crises can
shake us to our roots. But believe it or not, transformation is at work.
Significant life changes are called paradigm shifts. A paradigm is a way of
seeing, a mental model, a filter for our perceptions and thinking, a belief
system, a frame of reference. Dramatic life changes can tear apart our old
paradigms and force us to create new ones.
In all that happens, we can find a blessing and a curse. The curse? Crises are
tough and scary times to live through. We lose our ground, our sense of support
and we can easily fall into fear. Our thoughts and emotions and often our
behaviour get thrown into chaos.
And the blessing? These changes break down old beliefs, illusions, and
conditioning that no longer serve us. Life is waking us up, inviting us to open
to a deeper identity. In the rubble of our collapsed concepts, we will discover
a new truth about who we are. Whatever the shift taking place, this is a time of
growth.
Knowing this, how do we work with these crises in our lives? Here are some
suggestions:
- STOP RESISTING these forces of change. Resistance just prolongs the
whole experience and makes it more painful.
- TRUST the wise part of you to understand what’s happening. Call on
your faith and surrender to the higher powers at work.
- BE GENTLE WITH YOURSELF as you move through this void. Nurture
yourself. Get lots of rest and quiet time and eat well.
- Stay as conscious as you can to what’s happening. Release the old and
FOCUS ON THE NEW and better world that’s arising. Fashion a new framework
that reflects a bigger picture of who you are.
We grow and evolve by being willing to change our view of reality – the way
we perceive, think, and value both ourselves and the world. So take time to look
at yourself and your environment. Where are the tensions in your life –
environmental, psychological and spiritual? How are you changing your
perspectives and ways of living?
“I can change. I can live out my imagination instead of my memory. I can tie
myself to my limitless potential instead of my limiting past.”
-- Stephen Covey
“Being willing to change allows you to move from a point of view to a viewing
point -- a
higher, more expansive place, from which you can see both sides.”
-- Thomas Crum
“Our history is not our destiny.”
-- Alan Cohen
Resources
Paradigms to Shift - What are your growth obstacles?
Paradigm Shifting Tools - Become a master of change
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