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Do you need to be right?

“People are lonely because they build walls instead of bridges.”
-- Joseph F. Newton

How much does the “I’m right – you’re wrong” dynamic play out in your relationships?

It’s a win/lose game played by the ego. If I win an argument, my ego feels strong and more secure. Of course, if the other person wins, then the opposites come up: I feel diminished, insecure and lousy.

There’s always a loser in this game. The right/wrong battle always promotes conflict, not cooperation; separation, not union.

And so often, the debate doesn’t have to be about right and wrong but simply differences. Different perspectives can both be valid.

In relationships, the play of the opposites invites us to choose to:

  • fight or oppose each other, or
  • come together in love.

Andrew Schneider says that we need to “be challenged to transcend the personal so that we can experience our common identity. …At the soul level, we can never be solitary – well-being depends on sharing ourselves and serving others.”

When we become aware of those times when we’re caught in the right/wrong battle, we can choose to find a win/win position instead.

How do you justify and make excuses for not connecting?

~ John and Patrice

“Maturity begins when we’re content to feel we’re right about something, without feeling the necessity to prove someone else is wrong.”
-- Sydney J. Harris

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