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Weary of giving too much?

I had to learn how to take responsibility for my life without plunging into guilt, self-blame and self-criticism.
-- Ingrid Bacci

Recently Ive heard two different women cry, Im tired of giving so much!

This surprised me. Its not often that people are strong and honest enough to publicly express this. Our culture regards giving and serving others so highly that it seems almost sacrilegious to claim that weve had enough.

But if we want to be healthy, we need to find balance in our lives. If we give too much, we dont give enough attention to receiving. For the highest good of all, we need to care for ourselves as we also care for others.

I regularly ask myself these questions:

  • How am I feeling right now?
  • What do I want?
  • How can I give that to myself?

In most cases, we dont have to depend on others to serve our needs. We can look after ourselves. Put some energy into that and the whole world benefits.

Its only when were nurtured ourselves that we can be in a position to genuinely nurture others. Attempting to serve other people when were drained of energy and feeling increasingly resentful does not serve anyone well.

~ John and Patrice

It is no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society.
-- Jiddu Krishnamurti

The pain you feel is not only your pain but the pain of the world. Separateness is an illusion. When you heal yourself, you heal the world.
-- John Ruskan

Is it time for self-nurturing? What would most feed your hungry heart? We urge you to go for it. And then explore how to bring more balance into your life with our Smart Questions for Shifting from Outer to Inner Focus. If youre a member, click here to download the questions now. If youre not yet a member, click here to join Higher Awareness so you can get ongoing support for living a happier and more meaningful life.

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 What is needed, rather than running away or controlling or suppressing or any other resistance, is understanding fear; that means, watch it, learn about it, come directly into contact with it. We are to learn about fear, not how to escape from it.
-- Jiddu Krishnamurti

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